The way you react to failures determines the quality of experience your life would bring. Failure is a natural occurrence while in pursuit of worthwhile goals such as your drive to achieve success in business or career. But as we all know, things don’t always go as planned. To some its not much of a big deal, but to most of us, the experience could be mortifying. So if failure is just part of the process, what can you do to ensure success in the face of setbacks?
You must learn how to face failure, the Jedi way.
To become a master dealing with failures, one must be aware of the three natural reactions. Awareness of these reactions is important because it gives you conscious control over how you process in the face of failure.
The 3 Ways People React to Failure
1. Give Up
Out of the three, giving up is the most common and easiest to do. This is what most people do when faced with challenges that causes them to fall short of their goals. Another term for giving up is making excuses, blaming circumstances and other people for their failures.
Getting back up and keep moving forward after falling is difficult. Blaming and justifying why you failed is easy, that is why a lot of people choose to react this way. Ignore the fact that you are 100% responsible for your failures and you are bound to fail every time you set up a goal.
Another common reaction we’ve all heard about. When everything’s in the shits, we must persist, we must keep pushing, and never give up. The problem with this is that you can put a huge amount of energy and effort in doing the wrong things, resulting in the same failures.
Albert Einstein once said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.” Even though you persist, you get up each time you fall, but still doing the wrong things, you’ll still end up failing in achieving your goals.
There are two things can happen with this scenario: 1. you’ll just get frustrated and either give up from exhaustion and discouraged or 2. spend the rest of your life falling and getting back up but never achieving your goals.
So what does a Jedi do instead?
Habitually successful people believe that failure is just a feedback mechanism. If you try something and fail, learn from it, and ONLY then do you try again. Not only should you take action continuously, but also figure out what’s working and what’s not. Experience is the key to this endeavor and the more you fail, the more experience you gain which results in better re-evaluation of your next move, increasing your chance of success.
So how long do you restrategize and keep taking different approach? Until you succeed. This is a sure-fire way of achieving success that you set for yourself. Pushing and being persistent is great, but if you push and persist on the wrong things, you’ll be pushing and persisting for the rest of your life.
If you want to speed up this process, find a mentor who has already achieved what you wanted to achieved. Ask them about their experience with dealing with the same failures. Using someone else’ experience will save you the hassle of going through too many trials and errors. Have the right attitude and action when it comes to failure and success is just be a matter of time.